Second Approach to Healing Trauma

In addition to healing trauma using supplements to heal the brain and body. We also need to address it at another mental level as we are mind body and spirit. I discovered this method while researching on YouTube.

Another method to healing trauma is Safe & Sound Protocol which was invented by Stephen Porges. It’s not invasive and helpful. A negative side of it is that it’s not paid by medical insurance. It will cost about $300. It will calm your auditory nervous system and very gentle. Yes, I used it noticed a difference. I became a bit calmer.

What Safe and Sound Protocol does is you listen with a headphone for at least 6 hours of music with certain embedded sound. Make sure you choose uninterrupted time. I highly recommend it if you can afford to rent the tool.

DISCLAIMER: I am neither a doctor nor a psychiatrist, all my stories are through personal experiences.

Getting a Goodnight Sleep During A Traumatic Period

If you are experiencing challenges right now, you are not alone!  We all go through a valley at one time or another in our live.  I went through two job losses; Plus, I lost my dad. Then, five years later I lost my mother. It was the darkest time of my life.  Worrying about finance and stress had brought me into a black hole.  I experienced insomnia, anger, rage, and physical ailments.  My head contained thousands of non-productive and destructive thoughts during my awaken time. As a result, I experienced sleep deprivation.  Plus, I got pulled in multiple directions: driving my daughter to school and then drove back from her school to a local public station to take the train to San Francisco.  I constantly worried that I would be late to work.  I couldn’t sleep through the night and woke up multiple times during my sleep.

On a physical level, I exercised, and did yoga weekly but my brain was in a negative loop; however, I still couldn’t sleep well at all until l I discovered these amino supplements and an East Indian herb.  I totally felt more rested during the day.  They are L-Tryptophan, GABA, and Ashwagandha.  I have experimented with the dosage and have found the best one that has worked for me.

Looking back, this was a greatest blessing because it deepens me spiritually.

Below are links that support the above evidence:

11 Top Criteria for Selecting The Best Pre-School for Your Child

Your child is about to turn three, potty trained, and is ready and eager to explore the outside world. You decide to look for a preschool for your precious one, but don’t know where to start.  Below are eleven tips to start your research.

  1. Know Your Child Personality-Before you check out a school for your child, assess your child’s strength and weaknesses.  Not all school will fit your child personality.  If your child is active or very advanced, steer away from a traditional school.  This type of school will not tailor your child’s strengths and personality.  They may label your child as ADD or troubling child. If your child is creative, look for a Waldorf school.  If your child is explorative, check out Montessori.  
  2. Nurturing-this must be a top criteria since your child must be nurtured and encouraged during the early year.  Mindset is more important.  Many studies have been done by psychologists such as Grits by Angela Duckworth and Mindset by Carol Dweck proven that mindset is one of the essential factors for future success.  Teachers must be encouraging and understand your child’s personality and is able to grow, guide, and nurture your child’s strengths and interests.
  3. Classroom Size-Another important factor is the classroom size because your child needs personalized attention at a small age.  
  4. Environment-All educational things must be accessed at a child level.  A classroom layout must be bright, and opened. Montessori school masters its environment.  It allows a child to explore. All items are designed for little people from tables, chairs, and even a toilet.  It empowers a child.   Is there quiet time? Is there musical time? Are there enough outside time.
  5. Beyond education- Does the school teach collaboration and emotional intelligence? Does the school teach to solve problems? To succeed in life, we must be able to possess our parts-mind, body, emotion and soul.  That is to be able to articulate, empathetic, think non-linearly, and collaborate well.
  6. Flexible curriculum-Does the school accommodate your child gift if he or she is a math wiz or an intellect?  Most public preschools tend to fail short in this arena.  Your child shouldn’t be boxed. 
  7. Qualification-I may bother some people by making this statement.  While I understand that most preschools are monitored by your state, it is important to look beyond the so-called “ECE” teachers.  These teachers may be qualified by a state standard; they may not be good at understanding and nurturing your child.  I would look for those who are older and have had raised their own children. 
  8. Second Language-This is an important feature since children observe at an early age due to their brainwave. 
  9. Test Drive-Before you enroll your child, take a tour.  Bring your child to a classroom and let him or her immerse in that environment.  See how your child fit in the environment.
  10. Parenting Network – Does the school offer parenting support such as afterschool hangout?  Does the school offer parenting class?
  11. Tuition – Not all schools are created equal. Does the school meet your budget?  Do all those teachers have the right qualifications to command the tuition? Remember, an expensive school doesn’t necessarily mean a quality school.

Be sure to schedule at least three to five schools before making a decision.  Finally, make sure your child’s choice of school matches your values; maximize your child’s strengths and nurturing him beyond his intellectual’s capabilities.

For Montessori, visit this link:

For Waldorf, visit this link:

How to Raise a Voracious Reader

Do you want to raise a gifted and voracious reader? Back where I came from there was no library and books were not free but there was a little bookstore in my hometown. I used to save half of my allowances for book and the other half for snacks or accessories. I was in heaven when I made my first visit to a local library in America. As an American, we tend to take this privilege for grant it. What does this have to do with raising a child, you ask? I believe raising a child who loves to read will transform her world. While it’s not easy to raise a child, it’s even tougher to raise a child during this time.  Life demands of our time and energy to raise a child who loves learning and enjoys school.  And no you don’t need to be a teacher or an American born to teach your child how to read. All you need is to follow a few rules below.


I read to my daughter at a very early age.  I vaguely remember that I read to her when she was a few months old.  She started reading chapter book before kindergarten.  At 7th grade, she got a PSAT practice test with a verbal score of 740 and 700 in math.  At 9th grade, she got a 1497 on her PSAT test.


We made books accessible for her in many place.  We visited bookmobile after I picked her up from school.  She even read The Harvard Children Medical book at age 9.  I was often late for work because she was so wrapped lost track of time reading wherever she was. We have yet sent her to any after school tutoring up to this point.


To instill a love of reading, we must set example.  She saw me reading as a child.  We made multiple trips to a local library in addition to our library bookmobile visits. We showed up in unexpected place that the librarian and the driver joked that we stalked them.

The great gifts of instilling the love of learning in your child are priceless and life changing. She will take it wherever she goes. Reading will help enlivens and expands her imagination.  Teaching your child to read will give your child an edge. 

How To Boil Perfect Eggs and Eat In Fifteen Minutes

  • 2QT pot
  • 2 large eggs
  • 1 QT of water
  • 1 slotted spoon
  • 1 2-cup Pyrex


  • Pour 35% filtered water into a pot
  • Close the lid
  • Turn the stove on a five or six setting (I am referencing to an electric stove)
  • Set the timer to about twelve minutes.  This is an estimate.  Each person’s stove heat up time varies due to its power. 
  • Meanwhile, fill the Pyrex with cool filtered water and place it in a refrigerator. 
  • Bring the water to a boil.
  • Use the slotted spoons and place the egg in the slotted spoon and swiftly and gently submerge in boiling water into the bottom of the pot so the eggs won’t crack.
  • Set the timer between 7 and 8 minutes.
  • Take the eggs when place them in the cold refrigerated Pyrex cup.  In a six minutes, the eggs will be cool down, easy to peel and ready to serve. A second option would be to chill the water in a refrigerator before boiling the eggs so when the eggs are cooked, you can put the cooked egg in the Pyrex for six minutes and leave them on a breakfast table.  

How to Cook Jasmine Brown Rice Without a Rice Cooker

Rice is the main diet of 50 percent of the population. Jasmine brown rice, a type of long grain rice, has beautiful aromatic fragrance like pandan leaves. Its texture is starchy and not as sticky as short grain rice. Jasmine brown rice is originally from Thailand. Brown rice offers a lot more benefits; it reduces your risk of having diabetes, heart disease and cancer according to a study done by Harvard School of Public Health.

  • 2 cups* of Jasmine brown rice
  • 4- 5 cups* of filtered water

Ideally, brown rice should be presoaked about 3-4 hours before to remove phytic acid. If the rice is not presoaked, use 2 1/2 cups of water for 1 cup of rice. For presoaked brown rice, use 2 1/4 cups of water for 1 cup of rice.


  1. Put the measured rice and water in the pot.
  2. Turn the stove on to medium to medium high. If you have electric stove, turn it on between six and seven for about 20-25 minutes and leave the pot uncovered.
  3. As the water reaches about 1/4-1/2 left, turn the stove down to low between 2 and 3 for 25-30 minutes. it all depends on how soft you like the rice.
  4. Put the lid on after you adjust the stove.
  5. Turn off the stove and leave it on the stove for 5 minutes.
  6. It is now ready to serve. Bon Appetit!

If you prefer crunchier rice, shorten step #3 to 6 for about 5-10 minutes. Short grain rice can be cooked with the same method except with less water.

*I usually use the rice cup that came with the rice cooker. You can use the same proportion with a regular measuring cup.

Jasmine Brown Rice
Brown Rice Plate

Where to Purchase Good Fish Sauce aka “Nuoc Mam”

According to Wikipedia web site, fish sauce is an amber-colored liquid extracted from the fermentation of fish with sea salt. According the Sally Fallon and Mary Enig, traditional nutritionists and authors of “Nourishing Tradition”, fermented foods ease our digestion because they contain good bacteria. This is one of many reasons why you see many Kimchi dishes are served with bar-b-que dishes at a Korean restaurant. They are wonderful complements to many bar-b-que Korean meat dishes. Plus, anchovies also contain a good source of Omega-3, a wonderful fat for our brain and heart.

Fish sauce is basically fermented anchovy with salt and sometimes water. Fish sauce is used in many Vietnamese dishes from a main dish Grilled Lemongrass Chicken (Ga Nuong Xa) to a popular Southern Vietnamese dish Grilled Chicken and Egg rolls served with Vermicelli (Bun Thit Ga Nuong voi Cha Gio ) or an appetizer Southern Vietnamese crepe (Banh Xeo). There are two different types of Vietnamese fish sauce. The most popular one that serves at a Vietnamese restaurant is filtered fish sauce, “nuoc mam”. The other type is unfiltered fish sauce “mam nem”–a wonderful Vietnamese delicacy.

There are several different brands of fish sauce at many Asian grocery stores. However, I usually prefer not to purchase them at these stores because they contain preservatives such as MSG, fructose corn syrup, and sugar. Remember to read the label. A good bottle of fish sauce must contain no more than two ingredients: anchovy and salt.

I purchase mine from a Korean grocery store, “Kukje” in Daly City, California. I checked at Ranch99 and many other different Vietnamese, Chinese, and other Asian grocery stores, but I haven’t found one that is preservative-free. Here are the two brands that I have bought from Kukje Market:

  • Rhees Bros. Inc. or Korean Farm, Inc.
  • Hai Tai America, Inc.

I recently found a very good fish sauce brand, The Red Boat. I bought mine at Berkeley Bowl. This is the cream of the crop; it is what we called “Mam Nhi” in Vietnamese. The two web sites below also carry fish sauce if you can’t find at your local grocery:


I love to hear from you. If you have any questions or comments, please post it below. Thank you.

Red Boat Fish Sauce
Courtesy of Red Boat Fish Sauce

How to Cook Brown Rice Noodles

Since I listed where to purchase brown rice noodles, I would like to list instructions in how to cook the brown noodles.


  • Fill up the pot with filtered water preferably
  • Turn the stove to at least six or a middle mark for an electric stove
  • Bring the water to a rolling boil
  • Place the desired noodles into the pot
  • Then, turn it down to medium or low medium for eight minutes.
  • Be sure to leave the lid open.
  • Remember stir the noodles so they won’t clump together.
  • Add a teaspoon of cooking oil (e.g., grape seed oil, coconut or canola oil)
  • After eight minutes, turn off the stove.
  • Put the lid back on, set the timer for two minutes.
  • After two minutes, open the lid and drain the water.
  • Rinse the noodles with cold water.
  • The noodles are ready to serve after a few minutes.

If you desire your noodles to be al dente, remember to reduce the boiling time to six or seven minutes. It also depends on the type of stove you have. I base my cooking on my electric stove. If you have a gas stove, you may not need to boil as long as my instructions. Bon Appetit!

Where to Purchase Brown Rice Noodles

Brown rice noodles are great alternative to jasmine brown rice for those who enjoy eating dishes like “bun” or “goi cuon”. If you are gluten intolerance, brown rice noodles are a wonderful alternative to wheat pasta.  I generally prefer Trader Joe’s brand brown rice noodles since the price is reasonable and tastes just as good as any major brand. My second choice is Tinkyada.  For those city dwellers, here are stores below where you can pick up organic brown rice noodles.

  • Trader Joe’s
  • Whole Foods
  • Berkeley Bowl

If you don’t live in a city or your local favorite stores don’t carry brown rice noodles, fear not!  Below are two good sites that you can pick them up:

Feel free to leave me any comments and questions.